Peb feem ntau siv qhov no lossis qhov kev qhia ntawd siv tshuab. Lawv tau ntev tau muaj kev nkag siab dav dav. Piv txwv li, cov lus qhia "kom txo tus brakes." Nws yog qee zaum nkag siab tsis tag li nws yuav tsum ua, lub ntsiab lus qub tau ploj lawm. Thiab qhov no yuav tau tham hauv kab lus.
Meaning
Koj hnov cov lus no thiab sau rau koj tus kheej tias yog hais txog tej yam uas koj yuav tsum tau kaw koj ob lub qhov muag los tsis mloog.
Hauv phau ntawv txhais lus, "cia tus brakes mus" yog dab tsi? Qhov kev qhia no txhais tau hais tias cov hauv qab no: kev daws teeb meem ntawm kev tsis sib haum xeeb, tsis muaj kev sib cav thiab suab nrov. Muaj lwm lub ntsiab lus - qhovntsej thiaj tsis mob, tas li yuav tsum tau nres. Peb pom cov kab lus ruaj khov no nyob rau hauv qhov piv txwv, thiab tsis nyob hauv ib qho ncaj qha.
Thaum twg peb siv cov lus hauv lub neej?
"slow down" txhais li cas, peb xam nws tawm. Thiab peb tus cwj pwm yuav tsum ua li cas thiaj li hais tau qhov kev qhia no siv tau rau nws? Piv txwv li, thaum lawv hais lus tsis zoo rau peb, lawv ua rau muaj kev tsis sib haum xeeb. Thiab es tsis txhob reciprocal rudeness, peb nthuav qhia tsim nyog thiab ncaj nceeskev sib cav. Thiab peb ua nws kiag li calmly, raws li lawv hais, tsis muaj ib qho kev tawm tsam ntawm kev xav. Qhov ntawd yog, thaum peb sim hla qhov ntug ntawm qhov tsis sib haum xeeb yam tsis muaj kev ua txhaum rau kev ua phem, peb ua kom qeeb.
Kev siv ib txwm siv
Ntau zaus cov lus no yog siv los ua kev hu tsis txhob " nqos" kev chim siab. Thaum peb ntxhov siab, cov neeg xav tau zoo pib qhia kom tsis txhob tso cov brakes. Qhov ntawd yog, tsis txhob kaw koj lub qhov muag rau nws. Thiab cia nws los ntawm kev tsis sib haum xeeb, hauv lawv txoj kev xav, nws tsis muaj teeb meem. Qhov tseem ceeb yog kev sib ntaus sib tua.
Ntau tus neeg tsis nco qab tias kev sib ntaus sib tua tsis yog ib txwm tsim nyog. Muaj cov xwm txheej hauv lub neej uas nws yog qhov zoo dua kom nyob twj ywm yog tias nws tsis tuaj yeem daws qhov teeb meem ntawm kev thaj yeeb. Tshwj xeeb tshaj yog thaum nws los txog rau tus hlub uas hlub peb. Koj puas tau pib sib cav nrog ib tug phooj ywg, puas yog nws qw thiab hu lub npe, lossis nws puas yog ib qho lus qhib? Nws yooj yim dua kom nyob twj ywm, tig ib ncig thiab tawm mus. Ib tug phooj ywg yuav hu tom qab, thov kev zam txim.
Tau kawg, peb tab tom tham txog qhov xwm txheej nyuaj thaum phooj ywg nyuaj lossis phem. Nerves ua tsis tau tejyam, thiab nws tsoo. Yog tias cov xwm txheej zoo li no tau rov ua dua nrog qhov tsis txaus ntseeg, ces qhov no tsis yog kev phooj ywg, tab sis kev ua si ib leeg. Koj yuav tsum txav deb ntawm tus neeg ntawd.
Zoo kawg
Yog li, peb tau txheeb xyuas lub ntsiab lus ntawm "kom qeeb". Peb pom ob qho tib si nws lub ntsiab lus (ncaj qha thiab piv txwv), tham txog thaum nws "ua haujlwm" hauv peb lub neej.
Raws li peb tau pom, lub ntsiab lus ntawm cov lus qhia txawv me ntsis ntawm qhov peb tau siv los. Txhua yam yooj yim dua. Hauv qab nws yog lub peev xwm los daws qhov teeb meemnrog kev pab los ntawm kev sib cav thiab kev thaj yeeb, thiab tsis yog peb tus kheej ua pauj, raws li tib neeg tej zaum qhia peb txog.
